As parents, it is natural to want to shield children from
dealing with disappointments and failure in life. We want the best for them and
cannot see them lag behind their peers in any respect and feel helpless to see them
unable to handle any kind of raw deal that life may throw at them.
However, it is in their best interests and ours to let them
handle frustrations early on, so that they turn out to be well-reasoned out
adults later.
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Encourage instead
of lending a helping hand: Kids are met with tiny frustrations even as
young as infancy and toddlerhood. While kids at this age are very resilient and
are not prone to giving into despair, there can be times when the child might
feel like giving up. It is the duty of the parents to encourage their efforts
and let them be at the task, rather than finishing it off for them.
Compete with self:
However brilliant a child is, there is always going to be someone who is
better. Hence, the aim has always to be bettering oneself than competing with
the neighbour. If the focus is on acquiring skill and knowledge and not about
beating the next person in an exam, there will be no anxiety or frustration of
failure.
Realistic
expectation: Parents need to keep realistic expectations from the
child. It is not right to saddle them with their own unfulfilled ambitions.
Tuning in to the child’s capacity, interest and capability will help the child
to achieve his/her full potential.
Larger picture:
Score in an exam is very temporary and does not mean much in real life
scenarios. This is a truth that needs to be accepted and imbibed by
both-parents and children. The larger picture in life is many a time missed out
by pursuing shallow goals like winning a competition or topping an exam.
Open channels of
communication: Children should feel free and comfortable in approaching
the parents in any kind of situations. The lines of communication must be free
from judgment on the parent’s side. The child must not feel threatened and
should be encouraged to communicate his/her opinion.
Life is never fair and the goal of life should be taking
pleasure and lessons from the journey and not keeping a destination in
mind. If parents can teach this
philosophy early on, kids will be better equipped to deal with failure.
Lawrence High School, located at HSR layout, Bangalore,
focuses on educating children with traditional values to adapt and excel in the
world. To know more about Lawrence school, please visit the website http://lawrenceschool.in/ and join us at
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